POLKA DOTTED TIGHTS. NEVER A GOOD SIGN.
In walked a lady wearing obnoxiously pointed heels and a pair of equally unflattering polka dotted tights.
“I want the tuna sandwich.”
The demand fell out of her mouth 10 steps ahead of her ego, making it to the servers ears before she had reached the counter and met him eye to eye.
Back to the heels. They were the kind of heels that people who cannot walk in heels, by any means, wear. The ones that are an awkward height. Not short, but not tall either. In Swedish we would call this middle-ground “lagom” (just right), but there was nothing right about this. It was all wrong. Starting from the second she eeled her way into the cafe to the second she, in her eyes, strutted her good looking self out of there.
How many seconds of her precious life do you think she dared lose if she took the oh so effort-full decency to walk up to the server, meet him on his side of the playing-field, and then place her demand on what she so urgently needed to fuel her mindless body with. It’s not even worth bothering in trying to idealize that she could (with years of practice) go from making demands at people to instead simply placing a kind order. Because both you and I know this is the type of lady who thinks the solar system starts with her, the Sun, continues with Mercury, then Venus and then Earth. She is the sun and everything else revolved around her. This was her “world” and we were all just living in it.
Now try sucking yourselves out of her perspective and place yourself in mine, the observer. I often take on this role. I think it’s because it is my favorite of all the rolls that I play. There are many versions of me out there in other peoples minds, just like there are many versions of this lady in other peoples minds. The roll she was playing when she entered my awareness was unwitting and definitely not one I would want to acquaint myself with.
I notice things become quite black and white as an observer. The complexity turns into it simplicity and things become increasingly easy to analyze connect and reflect when you are not a part of the analyzing connecting and reflecting that is to be done. You simply disconnect, a valuable aptitude to master.
